Mindful Monday: Rock Your Life

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Just wanted to share this with you (again), because I love, love, love this message. :)

For me, it’s all about living an authentic and fulfilled life. That’s what I try to do through mindfulness.

Because, life is too short to spend it on something you don’t really care about.

Tell me in comments….

How did you find your purpose? What is it?

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Mindful Monday: How to Deal With Negative Thoughts (And Follow Your Dream)

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I have struggled with negative thoughts (like most people) for as long as I remember. It’s like ongoing battle that shows up.  Negative thoughts drain us of energy  and limit us to dare great things in life.

It happens more often than we realize. Negative thoughts just kill great dreams.

Here are a couple of examples from my life. I still struggle with this, but I’ve learned to deal with it. Will tell you in a bit. But, first, the example I promised.

I’ve always known I’m an entrepreneur, but I’ve always not allowed myself to believe in it.  Reason? Everyone around me follows the “normal path”. So I did the same and felt like a misfit for a long time. Fear and negative thoughts can be really powerful like that. We stay in safe zone and don’t even question our choices.

But, I enjoy building stuff, I see hidden opportunities when I allow myself to be creative, I negotiate whenever I get a chance, because it’s fun and I push through stuff, when going gets tough.  I like to take charge and be responsible and I don’t let people down.

But, then I’ve allowed negative thoughts to stop me in the past. I’ve let my dreams down because of that. I’m guessing you can relate?

Some examples:

  • I’m not an extrovert (actually, many entrepreneurs are introverts)
  • I’ve never owned a business before  (
  • I don’t have a fancy degree from college (well, now I do, but back in the days I didn’t and I thought I needed to have some paper to prove my worth. Couldn’t be more wrong! Some of the best entrepreneurs don’t have any degrees.)
  • I don’t have large enough network
  • I don’t like selling (yet, I’ve sold stuff before)
  • I look too young (haha, I wish I still had this worry)
  • I’ll fail anyway
  • It takes time and money to get started (true, but these are really excuses)

You get the picture. Negative thoughts can be sneaky and very limiting. We can’t be authentic, unless we face them. I’ve dealt with them long enough and I still fall into the trap once in a while.

But, here is what I’ve discovered and how to take some control back…..no matter your goal or dream. Afterall, life is too short.

Here is how to deal with them.

  1. Accept, that thoughts are just thoughts. Nothing more. We don’t actually have to believe them. I’ve learned to watch the negative thoughts. Say you have a bad day, but you’re in the middle of commitment or project and then you have ney sayer going nuts in your mind. Good news is that, we can just Watch these thoughts as they occur, but choose to not react or believe in them. I know….mindblowing.
  2. Learn to know your automatic thoughts. These often come in form of intern dialog. The trick is to learn to recognize this pattern. I’ve learned that when I have a bad day, I more likely to believe in negative thoughts. So, I’m extra attentive to my thoughts on a bad day. I catch myself thinking something limiting and I just notice it and watch it, but don’t let it take over me and choices.
  3. Replace negative thoughts with constructive ones. I’ve used meditation and mindfulness for this purpose. It doesn’t happen overnight, but when I pay attention to my thoughts during the day and I meditate, I pay attention to these negative patterns and I question most of my negative thoughts. By doing this, I’m less likely to fall into the trap of believing them.

Tell me in comments…. :)

How do you deal with negative thoughts?

What have you always dreamt of doing?

Great articles:

10 Tips to Overcome Negative Thoughts: Positive Thinking Made Easy

How to Squash Negative Thought Patterns

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Mindful Monday: Breathe

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Some days just start off all wrong.

You know…. can’t find the other shoe, burn the breakfast and leave home without phone. The seemingly small stuff get us.

On such days we tend to react.  And it’s so difficult not to.

But, the good news is that a simple breath or five can make a huge difference for the rest of the day.

Breathe. Breathe. Breathe. Breathe. Done.

I promise it helps.  Off to clean the breakfast mess and find the other shoe. :)

Mindful Monday: What Running In The Rain Has Taught Me

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Today, it’s raining in Copenhagen. So cozy! :)

Lately, one of my most favorite things to do is to run outdoors when it rains. It’s kinda weird. I know. I even have a gym membership, so I could run indoors, but I don’t enjoy it as much as outside.

Running in rain is tough, but also much more fun than running indoors.

I enjoy the rain on my face and the empty streets.

These runs train character and my acceptance muscle….you know?!

Makes you feel like the Rocky for a moment. :D

Side effect of my training is that rainy days of life seem less challenging.

Tell me….

Do you like walking or running in rain?

Mindful Monday: 5 Simple Steps to Feel Happy

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Mindful Monday: How to Accomplish Anything

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Today is a short sentence kinda day. Because I submitted my thesis (72 pages) yesterday, around 2.30 am, so I’m recovering and chillaxing today. But YES! I’m finally done. My slogan while writing ….

One small step at the time….repeated everyday and mindfully accepting unproductive days as part of the writing process.

Tell me…

How are you? :D

 

Breathing Space: 4 Ways to Take Care of Yourself When You’re Super Busy

 

Sursa-foto-2I really wanted to write an inspiring post today. But I have to be honest with you.

I’ve been too tired to be creative, so I just decided to just write about my experience right now. Because, I really wanted to talk to you.

Good news…. only, 4 days to go until I submit my thesis. Yay! Not that I’m counting. :) me tell you…. I’m super excited to be done, but as you can imagine I’m also very tired. Turns out my big project to finally graduate has been much tougher, than I expected. And I can’t tell you how many times I’ve felt like quitting.

It’s been a difficult balance to keep up with my healthy lifestyle and this huge project…..and meet the needs of my family.

I can tell you this….it’s been quite a journey.

But here is the thing….

Sometimes, we get to run our business or work projects,that turn our entire life upside down and mess with our normal routines of life, to test what we’re really made of.

This is what I learned.

  • Give yourself some love. You can’t give, what you don’t have. You need to shut down that laptop and phone to give yourself time to reboot. Sometimes, when we’re in the middle of a big work  project we forget to nurture ourselves. Our brain can tops focus 90 min at the time, so I work and then I take break. I keep this process going until 4 p.m.
  • Just do it! It’s during the super busy times that we need our healthy habits the most. I hit the gym, did yoga, ran and ate healthy. And I meditated too.These habits have saved me from feeling stressed and overwhelmed.
  • Have fun! Don’t forget to have fun. Yes, even when you’re busy. Life is not a race or a destination. We should enjoy the process of working as much as the end result, if not even more. I don’t normally watch too much TV, but during this time I’ve enjoyed Netflix a lot. Series like Modern Family and Necessary Roughness just do the trick.
  • Sleep. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again. Sleep is vital. When we feel stressed or overwhelmed our body needs to recover.

Tell me in comments……

Your favorite TV show?

How do you keep sane  during busy times and projects?