“Listen to your being. It is continuously giving you hints; it is a still, small voice. It does not shout at you, that is true. And if you are a little silent you will start feeling your way. Be the person you are. “ Oho
Sometimes, we find ourselves living a life that doesn’t make us unhappy, but doesn’t make us happy either. We accept it as a natural part of everyday life.
Maybe we have a job that pays well, with huge benefits, but doesn’t really match who we are as an individual and eats up all our energy. Or maybe we’re friends with someone who is a nice person, but the friendship just doesn’t feel right. So, we find ourself in the grey zone of accepting, settling and compromising on our own expense.
Heck, life is too short!
Don’t you think?
Anytime I catch myself wandering in the grey zone of settling, and not respecting my core being, values, wishes and who I am. In other words anytime I compromise too much on my own expense, I know, it’s time to call it quits.
Here are some steps that have helped me figuring things out when I’ve found wandering in grey zone of life for too long. Here we go.
1. Know Yourself. Ask yourself what are those core values that are rooted in your being. Maybe you always help others, care for homeless, believe in justice or equality. In that case you need to implement those values into what you do. I’m not saying, it’s not always easy. Sure, we don’t leave in a perfect world, so the truth is sometimes we have to for our families, our kids, our spouses, but we should never compromise who we are longer than it’s absolutely necessary. We have to honor our innermost core.
2.High-five Your Fear(s). Sometimes, we stick with something longer than we otherwise would, simply because we are afraid of the unknown that’s yet to come. We fear the not knowing, what comes next, so we hang around what makes us slowly miserable for too long. Acknowledge the fear, notice it, give it high-five and move on. That’s a buddy you don’t want to hang around with.
3. Ditch the Mediocrity. I’ve been part of that club for too long. Let me tell ya what I think. It’s b-o-r-i-n-g. I don’t mind mediocre lifestyle, simple living. Actually, I absolutely love it. What I mean here is the mediocre mindset, that is what holds us back. So, jump into unknown and have a little fun with new ideas, people and situations.
4. Be Yourself. I always wondered back in high school, why those artist dudes (we’ve all had them in our class) never got any attention from the teachers. They did academically poorly, but they truly shined, when they were in their art zone. They never tried to fit in, they never tried to be good in math or languages, because already at young age, they knew that art was the core of who they were as individuals. I really respected that, because I tried to fit in, to be good in learning languages, while I truly enjoyed writing. It takes courage to be yourself and not fit in.